How to get your man HOOKED to you forever

HOW TO GET YOUR MAN HOOKED TO YOU FOREVER!

We all like it when our man is hooked to us forever, but sadly, that is not the case in most relationships. Having a man is one thing but how to keep him interested in you forever is the big deal. A lot of relationships start right but often turn sour quickly because of one mistake or the other committed by partners. If we loose our man’s attention just remember that it’s our fault most often than not. We all commit some errors which harm our relationship and force our partners to run in the opposite direction. If we correct these errors we can get our man not only to just like us but to get hooked to us forever.

Find below 10 tips I came up with on How to get your man HOOKED to you forever.

1.                  Find out what he likes: It's only natural that everyone likes to talk about themselves, but instead of dwelling on you and your past relationships, ask him questions that show him you are really interested in him. If you get him going about his past and his experiences — and can stand sitting through the occasional boring story — he'll feel like he's connected with you and has a bigger bond to build on.

Find out his favorite color, it wouldn't hurt to wear that color every once in a while. Surprise him with his favourite food for lunch or dinner often, or get him that razor he's been talking about. It wouldn't go unnoticed.

In other words, pamper him a little bit. You’ll be surprised that just as women loved to be pampered, so do men, even if most times they're just afraid to ask for it for fear of not seeming "manly".

2.      Keep him intrigued: Don't be a completely open book, except that's naturally who you are. If he likes what he knows so far, he's likely to come around for more. Maintain a little bit of mystery, and space out some of your revelations so that you still have the ability to surprise him. Even if you didn't want to be a little mysterious, sharing every little detail about your past and your whereabouts is likely to be draining to a man.

Keep some surprises up your sleeve. Just like the explorers and hunters they are, men naturally love surprises. If you schedule a surprise, don't be afraid to just whisk him away and not tell him about it until he's right in the thick of it.

3.      Give him some breathing space: Naturally, guys are independent, and so need a little bit more space than most ladies. So make sure he feels like he has a life outside of you. As much as he likes you, nothing pains him more than to look at his life and realize that he's lost touch with his friends and all. Give him space some of the time.

And if you're worried about trust, don't be. Trust him. If he gives you a reason not to trust him, that’s when you can start questioning his motives in a non-confrontational manner. The truth is that if you trust him, he won't want to give you a reason to revoke that trust. If you don't trust him when you should, he'll want to punish you for not trusting him.

4.      Make him feel like a man: Learn to boost your man's ego; it makes him feel good about himself.  And if he does feels good about himself because of you, chances are he'll want to be around you often.

Compliment his achievements and reinforce the way he wants to be viewed. Make him feel like a man and he’ll stay your man.

5.       Keep public displays of affection to a minimum: Don’t force your man into holding hands and kissing in the public because most men don't necessarily like to display affection publicly. But most men still love it when their woman clings to their arms like a damsel in distress. It makes them feel more powerful and sexy!

6.      Be confident and look great: Most men like groomed women and are attracted to natural beauty; so a bleached skin and spidery eyelashes probably aren't attractive to him.

Keep you self youthful, beautiful, feminine and attractive. Take special care in the way you look and dress up. Pay special attention to your personal hygiene and body odor.  Wear a nice deodorant and perfume so as to smell good always. Give yourself a makeover and even wear special dresses for him from time to time. Many wives open the door for their husbands with flour in hands and face or with a kitchen knife in hand, and although he doesn’t throw you out, he would loose interest in you invariably.

Most importantly, don't ever compare yourself to other women. Not even in a way that seems acceptable. To a guy, this comparison screams "insecurity". Be confident in who you are and he would as well.

7.       Be financially secure: These days, men feel more secure around a woman who is in control of her finances and who has a well settled job. Be an achiever and a woman he can look up to in awe and he’ll appreciate you the more.

8.      Be a good cook: The adage; the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach still holds good, no matter what people say. So do yourself a favour girl and horn your culinary skills. You’ll be glad you did *wink*.

9.      Don’t be a drama queen: Nagging is now a norm with the women folk but sadly, it’s the last thing your man needs from you. No matter how bad what he’s done wrong, find the right place and time to discuss things with him after you have calmed down and thought it through. After all, the goal is usually to get him to see his wrong and adjust, and not to send him miles away from you emotionally and invariably physically.

10.     Express your Love: In the midst of all the activities in your daily lives both at work and at home, don’t ever forget to show (and tell) your man how much you love him. You’ll be surprised at the wonders that a simple ‘I love you’ can do to your love life. The surprise element in relationship gets it going so do not forget to throw pleasant surprises at him once in a while when he least expect it. Never forget a special day in his life.

It’s also very important to learn how to seduce your man. Be naughty and sexy around him; don’t act like the “old and retired house wife’!!! Spice up your romance!

So I’ll close by saying that a woman should never try to control a man and vice versa. Let your man be independent, and be independent yourself. Be sure to have a life and don't centre your life around him because a relationship is based on two people and not one person. If you spend all your time and energy just trying to please him, you'll forget about yourself and lose sight of what's important in your life.

Keep in mind that if a man isn't interested in you, there are probably others who would be. No matter what, be yourself, and don't risk your values for his sake. If you just be yourself you'll always be truly happy, and you'll find a man who likes you for who you are.

I hope this piece puts a silver lining in someone’s relationship J

Love always.

Tamie !